Heyy! DeAnna is a wife, boy mom, and boss. Entrepreneur. Wellness Transformation Educator. Motivational Coach..
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Tuesday, May 23, 2017

Learning To Forgive Someone Who Doesn't Deserve It.

In the last post I spoke of forgiving yourself, but I wanted to take a step further and lets talk about forgiving those that have hurt you. Those that have heart you, and don't care. Let's start forgiving those that don't really deserve it.

Once when I was growing up, I'll never forget some advice that was given to me. I was very upset and asked someone, "How am I supposed to be able to get over it?" She smiled, rubbed my back and proceeded to tell me the following, "Love and hate are just two sides of the same coin. Even when you hate someone, deep down you can still find love for them. You'll know you are ready to move on, to forgive, when you no longer care one way or the other."

I didn't understand what she meant by this at the time, because how could someone that meant to so much to me eventually be placed in a category of "I don't care about them." But with time, prayer, and a lot of patience it did.

It's like one day, I didn't care what they were doing anymore. I didn't care who they were hanging around with, or what their everyday routine might have been. I knew then that I had reached a place where I could forgive them. Did they deserve it? Probably not, because's not like they ever apologized for it. But deep down I knew holding on to the anger, the hurt, and the hostility that came with not forgiving them wasn't healthy.

Being healthy is much more than making sure to get that exercise in, or trying to eat the right foods. To be truly healthy you have to work on your emotions as well. You can't walk around holding grudges, because eventually that will eat away at you! So how do you learn to forgive someone who doesn't deserve it?

  1. Give it time. As they say "Rome wasn't built in a day."
  2. Learn that yes, you have to back off your pride a little to allow this to happen.
  3. Don't be so hard on yourself. If you can't do it just yet, that's okay!
  4. Remember that you are forgiving them for yourself, you aren't doing it for them.
  5. Don't stress. When it's time you'll know
.Life is never easy, and honestly this is no exception. Overtime you will see how this was the best move you could make for yourself.

Have you ever had to forgive someone who you didn't feel deserved it? How well did you handle it? Did it take a long time to come to terms with it? Let me know below.

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Sunday, May 7, 2017

Four Steps To A Happier You

In our technological age, we are constantly being flooded with images or stories of people with luxurious lifestyles. It does become very hard not to compare our lives with those around us. When being constantly told that we should do more, look better, and have more things... we start to become discouraged by our current lot in life. Then we wonder why we are sad, or feeling gloom more than we should. So I came up with a list of four steps to make you a happier person, and you can start today!

Step One: Forgiveness.

This isn't just about forgiving those that have wronged you or hindered your growth as a person in some way. I mean, yes you should do that too, but I want to talk about forgiving yourself. Forgive yourself for those things that you are holding on to. Maybe it's forgiving yourself for not taking that chance five years ago, quitting college, or maybe it's as simple as forgiving yourself for the snickers bar you ate at lunch. Whatever it is, give yourself permission to to forgive yourself. You don't deserve to feel guilty forever.

Step Two: Gratitude.

I'm sure if you really take a step back and analyze your life, you will realize that you have more than you think you do. Sure, you may have a beat up car, but at least you have one. Do you have a family that loves you? Chances are you do, and that is something that you can always be thankful for. Just try being thankful for the clothing on your back or the air that your breathing. Trust me when I say a lot of people have it worse than you and everything works in will get past whatever troubles you are having so for now hold on to things you are thankful for.

Step Three: Acceptance.

So let's talk about that beat up car you are thankful for, you probably want a nicer one. That is 100% acceptable, but unless you are just hiding money chances are you can't just run off and buy one right now. It's also okay to want a new car, but it is not okay to be Mrs. Grumpy pants because your friend just bought one. Accepting your situation as it is right now is hard. But it will make you happier. Accepting that you can't completely change your life overnight is okay!  Also, when I say that you are accepting your situation doesn't mean that you aren't going to ever change it...which leads to the final step.

Step Four: Change.

And....back to that car. You're thankful for it, you have accepted you can't go purchase a brand new one today but that doesn't mean it will always be that way and that's what you need to look forward to. You need to be able to change yourself, your situation, whatever it is in your life that is making you unhappy. If you want to make more money, take the necessary changes and steps to make that happen. You can't continue to do the same routine and except your situation to change. You have to be willing to put the blood, sweat and tears into it! Change is hard, very hard. I hate change honestly, and it took me a long time to realize that I should make many of them. Don't be like me, start changing now.

If your thinking "it can't be that simple", it 100% can. Google is amazing, it can help you figure out what changes you need to become whatever it is in life that you need to be!!! I would love to chat with you about your fears, your hopes, your dreams! Just send me a message any time!!

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Thursday, May 4, 2017

Why you should care about the Chemicals in your home

Why you should care about the chemicals in your home

I get this question a lot, from friends…. From my own husband honestly. I wanna stop here for a moment and say he is such a good man and encouraged me to do whatever I need to fill like I am fulfilling my purpose, but he didn’t understand why I was worried about chemicals either. So we recently had a conversation concerning them and I thought I would share the knowledge.

Most people love to say “my parent's used it on me and I’m fine.” While, yes that is probably true that doesn’t make it okay. Before everyone truly realized the harmful affects of smoking, it was allowed in hospitals. My grandparents have rare photos of people in hospitals just a smokin’ it up. Seriously. No one batted an eye. I can actually remember going to restaurants and someone asking my parent’s if we wanted smoking or non. It was acceptable. It was okay, because well their parent’s had done it and they were okay…. Weren’t there?

t comes to find out that we are in fact NOT okay with any of that.  Let me go into a few facts about chemicals in our homes.

Since 1950, at least 70,000 new chemical compounds have been invented and dispersed into our environment. Only a fraction of these have been tested for human toxicity. We are, by default, conducting a massive clinical toxicology trial, and our children and their children are the experimental animals.” (Source: Herbert L. Needleman, M.D., Philip J. Landrigan, M.D., Raising Children Toxic Free)

Yes, you read that right 70,000 NEW chemical compounds! This is what concerns me. Sure our parent’s were fine, we are fine, and our children may be fine….but what about our children’s grandchildren? Are we setting them up to live in a world we want to be in? How do we know all of the chemicals that surround us EVERYDAY isn’t hurting them?

Here are another fun fact about chemicals that is just downright scary to me.

Liquid dish soap is the leading cause of poisonings in the home for children under the age of six (over 2.1 million accidental poisonings per year). Most brands of liquid dish soap contain Formaldehyde and ammonia.
[Source: United States House of Representatives Report, 1989]

Now let’s stop and think for just a moment. Liquid dish soap, that we wash our children’s toys, plates, bowls, spoons contain formaldehyde and ammonia??? What and why is that even allowed? We, as mothers, work hard to protect our children and yet something so simple sitting on your sink could be causing them harm. Formaldehyde is a known cancer-causing agent. For reals. It can be found in everything from cosmetics, cleaning supplies, finger nail polish, lotions… whatever. You name it they are probably trying to put this in it. It's actually been stated that our bodies now take longer to decompose than it use to because of the toxic buildup of formaldehyde in our bodies! During the Vietnam War studies show that the American bodies would start to decompose within 4 to 5 days, and now it takes 7 to 10 days for it to start. Also, we all known that formaldehyde is used to embalm bodies right? Well it takes twice as much now then was needed 20 years ago to do it. (Don’t be fooled if you don’t see “formaldehyde” listed as an ingredient. Look up how many names they have to cover it up.

Getting of the subject of that crazy business, I have a really quick facts that I have to share with you. Today. Because they just floored me.

“Women who work in the home have a 54% higher death rate from cancer than women who work outside of the home.[Source: 17- year EPA study]

54% higher death rate from cancer than someone working outside of the home. How crazy is this? This is what chemicals are doing to our bodies. They are making our homes, our safe place, a toxic war zone. This hit way to close to home for me. I mean, I am a stay at home mom. I have washed, cleaned, and sanitized believing I was helping protect my family from germs and sickness. Which I guess I was, but I was also throwing horrible horrible toxins in my home too.

The deeper I dig into the world of chemicals, the more shocked I am by everything I see. I am thankful to have found a company that wants to help keep my home smelling good, looking good, and keep those chemicals out of here.  Why or why not have you embraced a more chemical free life? Let me know in the comments!!
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Sunday, April 30, 2017

Oola for Women Book Review


Who here is a book reader? Who here loves the self-help books? I'll admit when I first picked up a self-help, I thought "oh, wow. Now I am officially old." But it isn't like that. I believe that people have so much going on that we constantly forget what it is that we are truly wanting out of life. I believe that is how our self help books come into play.

Recently I have been able to read a phenomenal book! I don't know if you have ever heard of Dave Braun or Troy Amdahl but you should. The are the men behind the Oola Lifestyle and I was able to read their newest book Oola for Women: How to Balance the 7 Key Areas of Life to Have Less Stress, More Purpose, and Reveal the Greatness Within You.

Disclaimer: I received this book as payment for this review. This did not however affect my thoughts on the book nor did it sway me in anyway. The thoughts and opinions on this book are strictly my own!

The first time I even noticed anything about Oola was honestly from Young Living and their line of oils inspired by Oola ! After reading about those particular oils, I also started going to their website and reading more into this Oola Lifestyle.

If you are wanting more out of life, more out of your career whatever you need to read some of their amazing books. They have lit a flame underneath me I didn't even know existed. The books themselves are easy to read and include actual true stories from real women. It is fantastic to read these women's stories with lives that have been changed.  It was a quick read and truly only took a week or so to read (given I might have had a few late binders with it because I honestly could not put it down!).

It breaks down the 7 F's that you need to help you lead a balanced life. Faith, Family, Field (career), Financial, Fun, Fitness, Friends are the 7 F's and each one truly speaks right to the soul. Not only does it address them, but it also addresses blockers. Blockers keep you from obtaining those dreams of yours and include: Fear, Guilt, Anger, Self-Sabotage, Laziness, Envy and Lack of Focus. And if you thought we were done there, you are 100% wrong. It also goes through seven accelerators or things that help obtain those goals which are: Gratitude, Love, Disciple, Integrity, Passion, Humility, and Wisdom.

These books are packed full of so much fun stuff. It even shows the Oola Wheel,  Oola Plan, and Oola Path to get you to exactly where you WANT to be in life. ON their website they have an amazing little quiz you can take to see where you are in your own life and where you might need to focus. Click here to take the Oolawheel Test.

I really recommend taking this test, grabbing these books and taking complete control of your life! You can get this book at these links. It is released on May 2nd.

Have you ever read any of the Oola Life books? What self encouragement books do you recommend?

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Thursday, April 20, 2017

A Change In The Air

So did you notice the new name change up there in that pretty little URL bar? How about the header? That’s right. I’ve switched. For someone who is not a fan of change in the least bit, this is a huge step for me. I am proud to say that I think my original focus word of 2017 is starting to come along nicely. But, before I get ahead of myself let me take a few steps back and tell you how all this came about.

When I started The Outnumbered Nest I was a new mom of (another) boy. It was the first time I was staying at home and I needed a way to get “out” without having to put on clothes. So The Outnumbered Nest was born. It was a beautiful blog and I will forever be grateful for it because it led me here. When I started the blog, I was looking for my purpose. Obviously, my purpose includes being a wife and a mother and I cherish every moment of being both of those things. However, I always felt like something was missing from my life, some purpose that needed to be met. I had felt this way a lot during my life. I felt that way when I was in High School and told I was “too smart” for what I wanted out of my life. When I was in college and miserable trying to get a degree in something that I wasn’t even interested in but wanted to make everyone else happy. So that’s kinda the short story of how “finding purpose and positivity” came into the mix. It’s something I’m passionate about, about building others up and letting them know that there is always someone in their corner.

While The Outnumbered Nest started as a parenting blog it grew. It led me to a friend who in turn introduced me to Young Living. Ya’ll I have found another purpose. I didn’t realize how much essential oils would touch my soul. I didn’t realize how much I needed chemical free living. Why am I so passionate about it? Honestly, why is anyone passionate about anything? It’s just something deep in my soul that connects with it all. 

I know many people think, well the chemicals didn’t hurt me so they won’t hurt my babies. But is that really true? How do we know? Many of these things haven’t fully been tested yet. I can tell you that my Nana swears people are sicker today than they ever were as she was growing up. She don’t remember the “C” word being as rampant as it is now. There is a reason for that. I must believe it is the chemicals in the food, the things we clean our homes with, and the air we breathe. I may not be able to control it all, but why not control what little I can?

I give you this big long story to introduce you to, or sometimes I’ll spell it out as DeAnnaHillDotCom Depending on what we are doing and where we are at. Mainly because refer to my site as “DeAnna Hill” is just odd to me. I hope this blog will bring lots of good information your way as I touch on wellness products, parenting, faith and anything else my little heart desires. I am so thankful that you are on this ride with me!


Sunday, April 9, 2017

Life Lately

Hello beautys!

Wow. Let me start by apologizing for my absence. You know that I am not normally gone this long! It has been a super crazy beginning to the year.

In my last post, I stated that I was starting a new journey with Young Living Essential Oils. I love the journey it is taken not only myself, but my family as well. When you can replace so many chemicals away with toxic free stuff it is amazing. I am happy to grab my cleaners now without worrying if some will accidently get on my littles toys. It has also opened doors of other wellness avenues and I can’t wait to share them with you all!

In the beginning of March, my favorite (okay my only, but still totally awesome) grandpa was put into the hospital. Receiving a call from your grandmother around midnight is NEVER good. We had to call an ambulance and he stayed a week, with a night or two in ICU, in the hospital. It was a very tiring time because while I was still trying to take care of the kiddos and my home I was also going up once or twice a day (or spending the night) at the hospital to give my Nana a break. He was diagnosed with E.coli Poisoning, but I am happy to say he is happy and back at home!

About four days after my grandpa was released from the hospital, something else happened. After eating supper (or dinner for those “fancy” folks ha), my husband started complaining of shortness of breath and chest pains. Once taken to the ER we were admitted. He went through an EKG, stress test, and a heart catheter. Thankfully nothing was truthfully found and it was ruled to be either a serious case of acid reflux (we have a follow up with a GI soon) or it was muscle spasms. Either way, it was very scary when I started thinking of losing my husband. I know that may sound extreme, but the heart is nothing to mess with.

The next week we all came down with stomach bugs. How many of you have had stomach bugs? I’m betting most of you. We’ve had them too, but never have both me and Brian had the stomach bug at the exact same time! When parents are sick and the kids aren’t….it makes for a very long few days. After we recover, then it was the kids turn.

So as you see, it’s been crazy busy.

But I’m back and I want to hear from you! What is new in your life? Have you made any big changes, or taken any really large leaps of faith? Let me know in the comments!

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