The Journey Part Two

January 21, 2016

Breastfeeding is so divided in the world we live in now. Something so natural, so normal, and something that should be celebrated has been called; “perverted”, “for the mother’s own selfish needs”, and “not necessary”. I want to say one thing before I even start this post. I formula fed my first son. He is probably one of the healthiest kids I know, and no formula didn’t hurt him. This post is not to hurt the ones who choose to formula feed. This post is to help normalizing breastfeeding, and to explain my journey.

Women have a number of reasons they choose formula. For example with my first, it was lack of support and lack of knowledge. When his 3-month growth spurt hit, combined with acid reflux I panicked. This was my first kid, I was 20. I called the doctor’s office immediately and what did they recommend- putting him on formula because it was thicker. So I did. I didn’t do the research, I didn’t think that the doctors might be leading me wrong. I didn’t think that there was anything I could do about it. I honestly didn’t know the truth-and that there were things that could have been done to help me continue to breastfeed. However with buggy, if I would have had to return to work. I would have had to turn to formula again, because I don’t pump well. No matter what I do. Me and the pump don’t get along… So with all that said, I AM NOT DOWNGRADING FORMULA FEEDING!

A lot of mom’s feel they are being bashed for formula feeding, or that breastfeeding moms think they are better then them. It’s not that. We just want to make sure you are educated, because unfortunately many nurses and doctors aren’t doing a very good job. It’s sad but true. They say “breast is best” but as soon as you call with a problem, they suggest formula and rice cereal. Almost every time. Now are there reasons that a woman can’t breastfeed? Yes! That’s between you and your baby.

I’m just here to explain my story, my reasonings and why breastfeeding shouldn’t be a problem in public. (Hint: this will probably be a long post.)

If you want to read about my beginning of the breastfeeding journey you can catch up here:  The Journey

So we made it! I made it past all the bad looks when I would breastfeed in public. I made it past the people giving me side ways glances when I would breastfeed him while at a restaurant  (I couldn’t help this one- he smelt food, he got hungry too). No, I was not going to the bathroom to do this. I try to be discreet-but let’s be honest sometimes he lets go and you might get a flash. Luckily, in my state-I don’t have to worry about that being against the law. Here breastfeeding is legal anywhere we please! Yes you read that right-covered or not covered, breastfeeding is legal! And I would dare anyone to try to come up to me to have me removed while my husband is around. He is 100% pro breastfeeding and knows the laws just as I do! People who are freaked out by a simple baby breastfeeding, bothers me. It really does. How do you think our ancestors fed babies? How do you think that you became here? My grandmother remembers a time when breastfeeding was normal, no one thoughts twice about it. Now people say they don't want their children to see. My Monkey has saw his bubba nursing. Does he think it is strange? Nope. He will tell you, "Girls have big nenes to feed babies. Boys don't. That's why theirs are small." And if you ask him about a bottle he will tell you, "Some babies can't have nenes like bubba, so they get their milk in a bottle-and then when they get older they can get chocolate milk like me in a cup." Seriously, if a four year old can figure this out and not even give it a second glance-then why can't adults.

But we’ve made it a year! A full year! And instead of saying congratulating sentiments. People feel the need to ask, when am I weaning? Or better yet telling me- You know it is time to wean? This upset and irritates me. So to clear the air. We aren’t stopping right now. When will we wean? I’m not sure honestly. I’m playing this month by month just as I have the entire year. Two weeks ago, he spit out his paci one day and never put it back in his mouth. He may do that with “nene’s” so I don’t know.
“As recommended by the WHO, breastfeeding should ideally continue beyond infancy, but this is not the cultural norm in the United States and requires ongoing support and encouragement. It has been estimated that a natural weaning age for humans is between two and seven years. Family physicians should be knowledgeable regarding the ongoing benefits to the child of extended breastfeeding, including continued immune protection, better social adjustment, and having a sustainable food source in times of emergency. The longer women breastfeed, the greater the decrease in their risk of breast cancer.” They also note that “If the child is younger than two years of age, the child is at increased risk of illness if weaned.” (AAFP 2008)- Kelly Mom

However this is what I do know:

Kelly mom describes how extended breastfeeding is not only good for their health but also; nutrition, intellectual development, social and mental development, and how mothers also benefit (decreasing risk of many cancers can never be a bad thing). Oh and can I mention they have a great section on how nursing past infancy is completely NORMAL! There are many different websites you can look at here if you want more information:

The Mayo Clinic-Extended Breastfeeding

Dr. Sears on Extended Breastfeeding

The American Academy of Pediatrics, The American Academy of Family Physicians, the World Health Organization, The Academy of Breastfeeding Medicine and even the US Surgeon General all state that nursing to at least age two is ideal instead of just one. But since it is not the norm in the U.S. many mothers are shunned for it without realizing the powerful effects milk has for everyone involved.

Arthur Eidelman, MD, president of the Academy of Breastfeeding Medicine.  “Indeed, the more salient issue is the damage caused by modern practices of premature weaning.”  The global organization of physicians further notes that “Human milk contains nutrients, antibodies, and immune-modulating substances that are not present in infant formula or cow’s milk. Longer breastfeeding duration is further associated with reduced maternal risks of breast cancer, ovarian cancer, diabetes, hypertension, obesity, and heart attack.” (ABM 2012) - Taken from Kelly Mom

So with that being said, are you a momma that wants to continue to feed your baby past a year? Then do it! It’s truthfully normal, but for some reason a lot of people in the U.S. have it backwards now. Do I know how long I will breastfeed my child for? Nope. Do I know that I’m sacrificing my nights, my time alone, and all for the benefit of my baby- yeap! I am perfectly happy with that as well! So here is to hoping that one day, breastfeeding moms and formula feeding moms can go in together to help raise these kiddos, because there isn't a right method, and every baby is different.

Post a Comment

Latest Instagrams


All information found on is for personal use only. All the information provided on this site is expressly for entertainment and information purposes only and is my opinion. I am not providing medical, legal, financial or other professional advice. Any information is not meant to be used to treat, prescribe, or cure any disease or condition.Understand that if you are using any of the information from it is at your own risk.

Medical Disclaimer: The information contained in this blog is not intended as a substitute for medical advice. Please consult a physician in matters relating to serious illness and particularly with respect to any symptoms that may require diagnosis or medical attention.

Medications – You should work closely with your physician to adjust medications as your body heals. Many of you will be able to say goodbye to “maintenance” medication forever but some will not.I am not a doctor nor do I pretend to be. Please consult your doctor for any changes that you do that may interact with your current medications.

Affiliates & Paid Post- From time to time I will have a paid post or product review that was endorsed but those will be noted at the beginning of the post. They did not pay for my opinion, and the opinion stated is simply that-my opinion.
© DeAnna Hill. Design by FCD.