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I Let The House Be Messy Today


I decided for my house to be messy today. I made this decision. It was mine alone. The dishes in the sink from the previous nights supper (dinner for non southern people) still sitting there and staring at me with judgmental glares. The dust that’s collected in a days times on the picture frames, and the broom still sitting in its nest. I didn’t pick them up. I didn’t even give them a second thought. Not today.




As a stay at home mom, my responsibilities are that of house and children. I’m fine with that; in fact I enjoy being able to do it while my husband has to do the heavy lifting hard work. Okay, maybe I do the heavy lifting with a 25 lb 1 year old, but you catch the drift. I’m happy to create his home space, our home space, as a sanctuary. I enjoy the look of relief my husband gets when he can come to a home and just enjoy being with his family. I don’t enjoy these things, but I love to do them for my family. Even though I’m not the biggest fan of cooking- I enjoy cooking with Monkey, and enjoy the compliments I get from B for his yummy meal. My love language if you can’t figure it out is “Acts of Service”. Side note: if you have never checked into love languages, do it now! Especially if you are a married person, it is so important to understand your spouse’s love language, and your own.



But today, I didn’t do that. I didn’t. I refused. Instead today, I sat in the floor. I pushed cars around with Monkey. We colored; we played airplanes with Buggy too. We went outside and danced around. Yes I dance with my children, I play the goofiest music and do some sort of dance between the chicken dance and a tango. It makes them laugh, so it works. We did a bunch of things that I’m normally “to busy” to do.



I’m sure like most stay at home parents; I spend all day with my kids. ALL DAY. I always make sure we have a few moments a day, but lets be honest. Stay at home moms get side tracked with cooking, cleaning, keeping things put up, and just basically doing the same thing every day. We do it, and that’s okay. But today I didn’t.



Today, I watched the smiles light up as I told them to grab the soccer ball and let’s go play. I watched the happiness behind their eyes when I said let’s make some popcorn and watch a movie together. I could hear the excitement when I mentioned homemade popsicles.



Today, I made sure to have a conversation with my husband. I made sure that we got some alone time. Today, I wanted to just cuddle instead of rushing off to sweep the floor once again. Today, I let go of the ideal of perfect.



I ignored the piles of laundry, the sticky floors, and those dirty dishes. I ignored them all. They are always there, but my kids won’t always be this small. They won’t always think that mom is this awesome, and can fix everything. The housework will be there tomorrow, because today, I’m too busy to do the housework.



DeAnna


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26 comments

  1. I love this! I'm not a stay at home mom ( or a mom even! ) but I often have to practice being still and enjoying the moment rather than rushing off to do the next thing!

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  2. The housework will always be there and most days it seems like it never ends! I say take the moments and spend them with the kids! They grow up so fast! I think more people should take the time to be in the here and now and I'm sure your kids loved every minute of it!

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  3. They sure seemed to! I hate that we are a society of "perfection" and "faster is best", sometimes slowing down helps so much !

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  4. Nice post! There are more things to life than cleaning! Cleanining will always be forever there!

    Btw, love your header! Did you make it?

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  5. I love this. It gives me permission to let go and enjoy the important things!

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  6. I know that feeling ooh to well, sometimes I'm just not in that place to clean. But I don't like to see things messy or out of order.....so I'll usually pack the fishes in the dishwasher, or leave the house, lol

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  7. Yes ma'am I did. I'm so glad you like it! I just changed it about 2 weeks ago, so I was kinda "iffy" about it :)

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  8. Yes! The laundry will be there but they are only babies once!

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  9. I keep changing my header too because I'm never satisfied. Haha. One of these days... 😆

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  10. Haha I may have done that a time or two myself :)

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  11. This was the first one I ever made without some sort of "real" template, so it didn't feel as finished to me but everyone else disagrees haha

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  12. I love it! I'm having the problem of where the header looks great on the laptop, but gets cut off when using mobile version -_-... Plus, I can't find a theme I'm in love with.

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  13. Emmmmh
    U must be get the have fun to forget it !!!
    Hehe

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  14. Beautiful post! As moms we often forget how important it is to be present and enjoy our kids instead of worrying about our to do list. If we can't get a spa day then the least we can get is a day where we allow the common chores to be left for the next day!

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  15. Hi. I hope all husbands would be able to read your post. I know, I know, husbands would always say something like I wish my wife could see the things I have to deal with at work.

    As routine as life can be, you did good in putting aside chores for quality time. A break in routine is needed once in a while.

    Keep it up!

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  16. I am happy that there are more people like me. Lol. It is nice to break free of all the pressures - clean house, well-behaved kids and blah blah

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  17. I also do that sometimes and then I can enjoy more my time and my husband.

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  18. Sometimes I do that too. And then I can enjoy more my time and my husband.

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  19. I think it's good to escape routine and responsibilities from time to time and enjoy a little. Sometimes we need that to remain sane. After all, life isn't just work, it's enjoying too :)

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  20. I am so bad at keeping my house clean :3

    La Belle Dame

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  21. You can always clean another time! ;) Today is a day for FUN!

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  22. I can relate to what you've writed. I feel like the messy house can sometimes wait. Love it's the most important thing. I also want to congratulate you because I'm 21 years old and I don't know if I would be just as good as you seem with 3 (they are 3, right? :)) kids.

    xx

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  23. Great to be able to read your post because I am still pretty young (18) and living with my parents so I feel like I just read how my mom feels! Great post and makes you appreciate what your mom does in the house, or dad!

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  24. Thank you lol I have two children and my stepson. I was 20 when I had my first son and 24 when I had my second. They are now 4 & 1. My stepson is 7 :) I am 25 :) I truthfully never saw children when I was younger but now that I have them I wouldn't trade them for anything in this world. They are my reason for living and make my life so complete.

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  25. I lived with my mom till I was 19 (give or take), but I never truly understood all that my parents did for me until I had my own children. It really does make you appreciate them more.

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  26. It's something I used to be terrible at bit it's getting better haha

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