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Four Things I Would Tell My Younger Self





I don’t believe in having regrets, since it all leads you to the place you are now. Every thing that happens is apart of God’s plan for your life. (Read more about my thoughts on that here) However, wouldn’t we all like to go back and tell your younger self something?  So for my day 11 of the 30 Day Blogging Challenge here are the things I would tell my younger self.
"For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not evil, to give you a future and a hope." -Jeremiah 29:11


Don’t take that relationship so seriously.

We all know high school romances are tough. They are our first real emotions, and when that first heartbreak happens we are pretty sure our heart will never be put back together again. It hurts. I can still remember the pain of my very first heartbreak to this day. I can remember crying for weeks, and moping around. I remember how much it hurt to hear his name or even be in the same place that we shared a memory in.  I was 15 years old, (maybe 16) when all this was happening. I wish I could go and slap myself and tell me to stop sulking. Because was a man out there for me. A perfect man made just for me already out there living life waiting on me to come into his life, that I just needed to wait. I didn’t know that.  I didn’t know that I would have several other “true love” heartbreaks before I found my real true love. Everything was so in the moment, and I couldn’t see my life without them, but each time I survived.  I would pick myself up and dust off, and fall in love again. I guess that is the good thing about teenage romances; you hopelessly fall in love even after heartbreak. I wish I would have known better.

Don’t be afraid, be adventurous.

I’ve mentioned a lot of my fears. I’ve even be brave enough to call myself a scardy cat. I know it’s a downfall of mine. You know all those spring break trips that teens take? Yeah, I never went. Never once. I was always “busy”, which was my way of saying I was scared about leaving. I was scared I would be that girl that got kidnapped from the bathrooms or something. I missed out on so much before I had kids, because I was afraid.  I was to scared to venture off from my known territory and not know where I was. I was scared of being away from my family; Lord knows how close knit we are. In college, I tried to branch out and became a part of a sorority. It was a fantastic experience, but I still let my fear get in the way of doing things. If I’m truthful, it still gets in my way of being an active alumnae. Honestly, I dislike that a lot about myself looking back. If I had known how fleeting those moments were, I would have cherished them so much. I wouldn’t have let my fear get in the way of making memories.  I would have gone on those spring breaks, vacations, and those fun girl trips. 


Spend that money.

I guess this could still be used now. I have always been a worrier about finances. I was that tightwad friend that knew exactly how much I had in my bank account at all times, and never over drafted. It is a double-edged sword honestly. Sure my “accounts” are in check, but I’m constantly checking bank accounts. I’m obsessing, and I’ll pass on things that I want. I’ve been this way even in high school. Oh? So and so wants to go get their nails done… oh well, I might need that $35 for something else. That’s the way I work. I hold and hold and hold to it.  Honestly, I still have the tax return money (about $200) from three years ago!  That’s the problem, I have the money but I won’t spend it. I know that I can’t take it with me.  I’m not saying that you should go and use every bit you have. No no no. But I’m saying you shouldn’t be so serious about holding on to it like I am!)

Understand that you are beautiful.

I am a mother to two kids born from c-sections. I don’t have my teen body anymore.  I’m not saying this as a bad thing, oh no. Im saying this as a right of passage. I am learning to love my body as it is now. In high school though, I had a eating disorder. I would go weeks, without eating anything substantial. I would work out for hours. I would always see that I was fat, when looking back now I was beautiful and extremely too thin.  I did things to my body, that I would never want my younger sister or my children to do to theirs in order to feel “pretty.” I was beautiful. I was a good person. I had so many friends. I should have known how beautiful I was, how much I had going for me. I constantly told myself how fat I was, or how ugly I was. I tore myself down so much that I couldn’t even have seen my true beauty when someone pointed it out to me.  I still have a bad relationship with food, and probably always will…but I’m learning to love this body. This body that bares two scares from my children’s birth, a few extra pounds from those chicken nuggets that was left on the plate, or my big calf muscles from chasing them around. It’s okay, I’m not perfect.

Time is tough. It doesn’t care if you are sick, hurting, having the time of your life, or spending all that time in bed. It keeps ticking on.  It doesn’t stop for anyone, and in a moment you go from being a carefree teen to an adult working at a job you either love or hate.  As you get older you can see the mistakes you’ve made, but you can’t go back and do them again. All you can do is put the past in the past and live a new life. 

"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come." -2 Corinthians 5:17
What advice would you give your younger self if you could go back? Let me know, here or facebook!!


20 comments

  1. I am at that age where I reflect or wonder what would have happened if I did something different when I was younger. No regrets on my part.

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    1. Hi there! I have a post about that exact thing, if I would have made one decision different here: http://www.theoutnumberednest.com/2016/02/thedecisionthatchangedmylife.html

      Thank you so much for reading.

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  2. Wow! This post is great. Was much needed today. Thanks for sharing this. I will be reading more 😀

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    1. Thank you so much!! I'm hope to see you back around here soon :D

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  3. This is such a great blog post! I can totally relate on many points!

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  4. Thank you for this post. I wish I would have thought of these when I was younger. I take everything so seriously now a days.

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  5. Those are the exact things I would tell my younger self. Also, to take more pictures on all those trips - you can never have enough good memories. :)

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  6. I think the last advice is very important. We all have issues when we grow up about the way we look and most of the time we think we are ugly.

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  7. Yes that was perfect post for giving advice to younger self...To add on always try to do exercise be active and participate in many events not as stress but to enjoy which will add to stronger life :)

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  8. I like reading such blog posts, thanks for sharing!

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  9. Truly understanding one's inner self could be so positive. I was also inspired by the second point "Don't be afraid, be adventurous". Great post, thanks for sharing!

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  10. I think we all wish you would have known... And at the same time, all our past "mistakes" made us be who we are today :) ...

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  11. Great reminders to be good to ourselves :) Thanks for this post.

    xo,

    Kristie

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  12. I agree that you should not live in the shoulda, woulda, coulda's... no regrets in life, because everything happens for a reason whether it leads us somewhere great or it teaches us something! great post, keep up the good work!

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  13. Great article! I think I might have to write myself a book... looking back on all the mistakes I made along the way!!

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  14. Sadly we can only find out later on how we could have done things better. But in the end those things shape us and make us who we are.

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  15. Definitely no regrets, either, but it doesn't stop the wandering mind from thinking about what might have been if 1 different decision had been made here or there, ya know? Great post!

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  16. Hi Deanna,
    thanks for sharing your younger self, what pos about regrets is that one should never do that thing again.

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  17. I really love this post. I'm always telling myself to spend the money, I'm ridiculously tight and save at least 80% of my income, I made it my goal to treat myself more often which I have been recently.

    Ami xxx

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