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Why I Let My Child Rock A Mohawk



You see the kid down below? With his crazy hairstyle. It changes every day, and sometimes he wants it in a Mohawk, sometimes he wants it spiked in every direction, and some days he just wants it to be flat.  He’s four years old, and primps more then most teenage girls some days. But I see that look from the older generations and some of the younger one in the stores. I can hear the whispers of “Why, doesn’t she fix her kids hair?”  But I don’t care.


You see, he likes his hair that way. He requests it.  Yes, I could tell him no. I could make him fit into your idea of “normal”, but that wouldn’t be fair to his young soul. He needs to explore, he needs to find out what he likes and what he don’t. It’s his hair, and not mine.  Now if it were ever against the handbook at school, sure he would need to tame it down while he is there. But right now, that is not the issue.

Let’s take a moment to discuss school anyway. I recently found out that starting in Kindergarten most of the kids only get about 40 minutes to have lunch and recess. So you are telling me that these little babies, yes at that age they are babies, are getting to rush to stand in line…rush to eat lunch…rush to play… rush to learn this and that. And then we wonder why by the time they are 10 or 11 they are burnt out. I can’t believe this society has gone so far. Maybe I’m just an “old-school” parent or what have you. But I believe kids need outside time, they aren’t meant to be still and focus all day long. They can’t.  I couldn’t have as a child, and I barely can as an adult. 

Don’t get me wrong, I get it. We want to teach them so much more stuff now than when I was in school. They are expected to know so much more going into college. That’s fine, but at the same time I think it is hurting our children. They aren’t getting to be kids, they aren’t getting to just use imagination and play.  They may learn calculus when they are 17, but we are forgetting to teach them to balance a check book or apply for a home loan.  I also don’t remember taxes ever being a course, but I certainly remember Chemistry, which I have never used but I know some do.

I’m not saying we shouldn’t make them be their best, we should. But isn’t their best mean having confidence in themselves, loving themselves, knowing what they do and do not like? I think it is.  My mother always let me express myself with my clothing, hair, and makeup. Did she always like what I chose? Probably not, but I didn’t feel the need to be “normal”, and I turned out just fine.  I want that for my kids. I don’t want them to feel suffocated at home. I don’t want them to think that they have to hide who they are. So what if one day Monkey wants to let his hair grow down to his butt, as long as I don’t have to be the one to keep it brushed and all then go for it! Now tattoos and piercings, which yes my husband and me have both, will wait till 18 just like I did. That’s just how that works. But I don't believe in making him fit into the "norm" of society, if he doesn't want to be.  You can tell by the photos he takes, he wants to be the funny man. The one who makes other's laugh, and there is nothing wrong with that. If it makes him feel better about himself, then do it!

So yes, his hair is spikey and he loves it. And I love that he is expressing himself in a safe way.  If you want to  know something real scandalous sometimes I let him put on fake tattoos. He loves it. I want him to feel safe at home, and I’m doing my best to make sure he does.  He knows he will always be safe here, to be himself…whomever that will be.

1 comment

  1. I think you would like something called The Hurried Child Syndrome. google it. I love this post!! I let my kids rock neat hair styles.

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