Learning To Forgive Someone Who Doesn't Deserve It.

May 23, 2017

In the last post I spoke of forgiving yourself, but I wanted to take a step further and lets talk about forgiving those that have hurt you. Those that have heart you, and don't care. Let's start forgiving those that don't really deserve it.

Once when I was growing up, I'll never forget some advice that was given to me. I was very upset and asked someone, "How am I supposed to be able to get over it?" She smiled, rubbed my back and proceeded to tell me the following, "Love and hate are just two sides of the same coin. Even when you hate someone, deep down you can still find love for them. You'll know you are ready to move on, to forgive, when you no longer care one way or the other."

I didn't understand what she meant by this at the time, because how could someone that meant to so much to me eventually be placed in a category of "I don't care about them." But with time, prayer, and a lot of patience it did.

It's like one day, I didn't care what they were doing anymore. I didn't care who they were hanging around with, or what their everyday routine might have been. I knew then that I had reached a place where I could forgive them. Did they deserve it? Probably not, because well...it's not like they ever apologized for it. But deep down I knew holding on to the anger, the hurt, and the hostility that came with not forgiving them wasn't healthy.

Being healthy is much more than making sure to get that exercise in, or trying to eat the right foods. To be truly healthy you have to work on your emotions as well. You can't walk around holding grudges, because eventually that will eat away at you! So how do you learn to forgive someone who doesn't deserve it?

  1. Give it time. As they say "Rome wasn't built in a day."
  2. Learn that yes, you have to back off your pride a little to allow this to happen.
  3. Don't be so hard on yourself. If you can't do it just yet, that's okay!
  4. Remember that you are forgiving them for yourself, you aren't doing it for them.
  5. Don't stress. When it's time you'll know
.Life is never easy, and honestly this is no exception. Overtime you will see how this was the best move you could make for yourself.

Have you ever had to forgive someone who you didn't feel deserved it? How well did you handle it? Did it take a long time to come to terms with it? Let me know below.


Four Steps To A Happier You

May 7, 2017

In our technological age, we are constantly being flooded with images or stories of people with luxurious lifestyles. It does become very hard not to compare our lives with those around us. When being constantly told that we should do more, look better, and have more things... we start to become discouraged by our current lot in life. Then we wonder why we are sad, or feeling gloom more than we should. So I came up with a list of four steps to make you a happier person, and you can start today!

Step One: Forgiveness.

This isn't just about forgiving those that have wronged you or hindered your growth as a person in some way. I mean, yes you should do that too, but I want to talk about forgiving yourself. Forgive yourself for those things that you are holding on to. Maybe it's forgiving yourself for not taking that chance five years ago, quitting college, or maybe it's as simple as forgiving yourself for the snickers bar you ate at lunch. Whatever it is, give yourself permission to to forgive yourself. You don't deserve to feel guilty forever.

Step Two: Gratitude.

I'm sure if you really take a step back and analyze your life, you will realize that you have more than you think you do. Sure, you may have a beat up car, but at least you have one. Do you have a family that loves you? Chances are you do, and that is something that you can always be thankful for. Just try being thankful for the clothing on your back or the air that your breathing. Trust me when I say a lot of people have it worse than you and everything works in seasons...you will get past whatever troubles you are having so for now hold on to things you are thankful for.

Step Three: Acceptance.

So let's talk about that beat up car you are thankful for, you probably want a nicer one. That is 100% acceptable, but unless you are just hiding money chances are you can't just run off and buy one right now. It's also okay to want a new car, but it is not okay to be Mrs. Grumpy pants because your friend just bought one. Accepting your situation as it is right now is hard. But it will make you happier. Accepting that you can't completely change your life overnight is okay!  Also, when I say that you are accepting your situation doesn't mean that you aren't going to ever change it...which leads to the final step.

Step Four: Change.

And....back to that car. You're thankful for it, you have accepted you can't go purchase a brand new one today but that doesn't mean it will always be that way and that's what you need to look forward to. You need to be able to change yourself, your situation, whatever it is in your life that is making you unhappy. If you want to make more money, take the necessary changes and steps to make that happen. You can't continue to do the same routine and except your situation to change. You have to be willing to put the blood, sweat and tears into it! Change is hard, very hard. I hate change honestly, and it took me a long time to realize that I should make many of them. Don't be like me, start changing now.

If your thinking "it can't be that simple", it 100% can. Google is amazing, it can help you figure out what changes you need to become whatever it is in life that you need to be!!! I would love to chat with you about your fears, your hopes, your dreams! Just send me a message any time!!


Why you should care about the Chemicals in your home

May 4, 2017

Why you should care about the chemicals in your home

I get this question a lot, from friends…. From my own husband honestly. I wanna stop here for a moment and say he is such a good man and encouraged me to do whatever I need to fill like I am fulfilling my purpose, but he didn’t understand why I was worried about chemicals either. So we recently had a conversation concerning them and I thought I would share the knowledge.

Most people love to say “my parent's used it on me and I’m fine.” While, yes that is probably true that doesn’t make it okay. Before everyone truly realized the harmful affects of smoking, it was allowed in hospitals. My grandparents have rare photos of people in hospitals just a smokin’ it up. Seriously. No one batted an eye. I can actually remember going to restaurants and someone asking my parent’s if we wanted smoking or non. It was acceptable. It was okay, because well their parent’s had done it and they were okay…. Weren’t there?

t comes to find out that we are in fact NOT okay with any of that.  Let me go into a few facts about chemicals in our homes.

Since 1950, at least 70,000 new chemical compounds have been invented and dispersed into our environment. Only a fraction of these have been tested for human toxicity. We are, by default, conducting a massive clinical toxicology trial, and our children and their children are the experimental animals.” (Source: Herbert L. Needleman, M.D., Philip J. Landrigan, M.D., Raising Children Toxic Free)

Yes, you read that right 70,000 NEW chemical compounds! This is what concerns me. Sure our parent’s were fine, we are fine, and our children may be fine….but what about our children’s grandchildren? Are we setting them up to live in a world we want to be in? How do we know all of the chemicals that surround us EVERYDAY isn’t hurting them?

Here are another fun fact about chemicals that is just downright scary to me.

Liquid dish soap is the leading cause of poisonings in the home for children under the age of six (over 2.1 million accidental poisonings per year). Most brands of liquid dish soap contain Formaldehyde and ammonia.
[Source: United States House of Representatives Report, 1989]

Now let’s stop and think for just a moment. Liquid dish soap, that we wash our children’s toys, plates, bowls, spoons contain formaldehyde and ammonia??? What and why is that even allowed? We, as mothers, work hard to protect our children and yet something so simple sitting on your sink could be causing them harm. Formaldehyde is a known cancer-causing agent. For reals. It can be found in everything from cosmetics, cleaning supplies, finger nail polish, lotions… whatever. You name it they are probably trying to put this in it. It's actually been stated that our bodies now take longer to decompose than it use to because of the toxic buildup of formaldehyde in our bodies! During the Vietnam War studies show that the American bodies would start to decompose within 4 to 5 days, and now it takes 7 to 10 days for it to start. Also, we all known that formaldehyde is used to embalm bodies right? Well it takes twice as much now then was needed 20 years ago to do it. (Don’t be fooled if you don’t see “formaldehyde” listed as an ingredient. Look up how many names they have to cover it up.

Getting of the subject of that crazy business, I have a really quick facts that I have to share with you. Today. Because they just floored me.

“Women who work in the home have a 54% higher death rate from cancer than women who work outside of the home.[Source: 17- year EPA study]

54% higher death rate from cancer than someone working outside of the home. How crazy is this? This is what chemicals are doing to our bodies. They are making our homes, our safe place, a toxic war zone. This hit way to close to home for me. I mean, I am a stay at home mom. I have washed, cleaned, and sanitized believing I was helping protect my family from germs and sickness. Which I guess I was, but I was also throwing horrible horrible toxins in my home too.

The deeper I dig into the world of chemicals, the more shocked I am by everything I see. I am thankful to have found a company that wants to help keep my home smelling good, looking good, and keep those chemicals out of here.  Why or why not have you embraced a more chemical free life? Let me know in the comments!!
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