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Learning To Forgive Someone Who Doesn't Deserve It.



In the last post I spoke of forgiving yourself, but I wanted to take a step further and lets talk about forgiving those that have hurt you. Those that have heart you, and don't care. Let's start forgiving those that don't really deserve it.

Once when I was growing up, I'll never forget some advice that was given to me. I was very upset and asked someone, "How am I supposed to be able to get over it?" She smiled, rubbed my back and proceeded to tell me the following, "Love and hate are just two sides of the same coin. Even when you hate someone, deep down you can still find love for them. You'll know you are ready to move on, to forgive, when you no longer care one way or the other."

I didn't understand what she meant by this at the time, because how could someone that meant to so much to me eventually be placed in a category of "I don't care about them." But with time, prayer, and a lot of patience it did.

It's like one day, I didn't care what they were doing anymore. I didn't care who they were hanging around with, or what their everyday routine might have been. I knew then that I had reached a place where I could forgive them. Did they deserve it? Probably not, because well...it's not like they ever apologized for it. But deep down I knew holding on to the anger, the hurt, and the hostility that came with not forgiving them wasn't healthy.

Being healthy is much more than making sure to get that exercise in, or trying to eat the right foods. To be truly healthy you have to work on your emotions as well. You can't walk around holding grudges, because eventually that will eat away at you! So how do you learn to forgive someone who doesn't deserve it?

  1. Give it time. As they say "Rome wasn't built in a day."
  2. Learn that yes, you have to back off your pride a little to allow this to happen.
  3. Don't be so hard on yourself. If you can't do it just yet, that's okay!
  4. Remember that you are forgiving them for yourself, you aren't doing it for them.
  5. Don't stress. When it's time you'll know
.Life is never easy, and honestly this is no exception. Overtime you will see how this was the best move you could make for yourself.

Have you ever had to forgive someone who you didn't feel deserved it? How well did you handle it? Did it take a long time to come to terms with it? Let me know below.






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1 comment

  1. So true! We always think of health stirctly in terms of the body, but there's much more to it than that. Forgiveness can be difficult, but it's so important.

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