To The Late-Talker's Momma

September 6, 2018



Hey girl!

I see you.

I see you scrolling through Facebook and slowly crying every time one of your friends uploads a video of their child, the same age as yours by the way, singing their favorite song. I see you tear up when the child runs to their mother telling them they love them.


I see you up late at worrying if you could be doing something more, something better, something that would just make them talk.


I see you when a stranger comes up in the grocery store and tries to speak to your child. Quickly you blurt out "oh, he's just a late talker. He's not trying to be rude."

I see you when you take so much time out of your day, repeating the same words over and over. I see you putting pressure on yourself because you think you did something wrong. Did I talk to them enough? Do I need to tell them more? Should I press him more?

I see you as you spend so much time with one child that you start to feel bad for not paying so much attention to the others.

I see you worrying about when they start school. Will they talk by then? What will happen if they still haven't got it?

I see you tell everyone every time your child does finally say a word-any word. I see the excitement swell in your eyes.

I see you start to feel bad for telling everyone, every little word because you feel like a bother.


I see you, because I am you. You are not a lone. I've had two children. Both have been late talkers. My monkey who is 7 now is still in speech therapy. He didn't talk till he was a little over three. Not a word. Now, he's never ever quiet.

My buggy, 3, still doesn't say much and when he does- it's usually hard to understand. He's getting better though, every week.  When at the beginning of the year he barely had 5 words...we now have over 50. But it's hard. It's tough. It's slow going.

I am you.

I am that mother that cries at videos of other's people's children. I am that mother who wonder's why? Did I do something wrong? Is it me? Twice. I've been through this twice. It's exhausting. I know the looks you get in stores when the child(especially if they are tall like mine are) won't speak to a stranger.

With my first I worried. While I was pregnant, I prayed literally every night that Buggy would not have the same problem as his brother-and so many other's in my family. I didn't want that. I wanted the cute videos of them talking. I wanted to hear him say "Your pretty mom" just because. I wanted so much for him to talk.... and then he didn't. Believe me when I tell you, I KNOW your heartbreak. When he's developmentally fine on everything-except his speech. When his speech teacher tells you he will get it, but it just takes time. It doesn't matter, you want change over night. You don't want everyone to treat him different because he doesn't talk in a language they understand. I know you understand him, momma. You understand every sound, grunt, hum that comes from him.  I know the pain that comes from having late talkers.


Don't for one second ever think that you are alone in this! Because you aren't. Give yourself grace. Do what you can, and just know that you are not alone. Knowing that can change everything. Keep going on Momma, it'll all be okay.












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Dancing Can Change Your Mindset

August 30, 2018




Have you been stuck in a rut? Can seem to stop being so negative and everything out to get ya?

Yeah, me too.

Maybe it's all the mercury retrogrades that have been going on, maybe it's just life. Either way, it sucks we when are down for so long doesn't it?  It seems as if the more we give into the negative feelings, negative thoughts, negative actions the more of those type of things are around us. That is why I am such a huge believer and Law of Attraction. Now, before you get all bippity boppy on me, I don't think you can just wish stuff into existance. No no, you must work for it. However, mindset is a huge factor into getting what you want.

How do I know this? Because I have tested it. I spent one week just drilling myself into negative thoughts after thoughts. Guess what, that whole week I had terrible luck. The next week full of positive affirmations and a positive outlook-let's just say that week when so much better!

But how does one pull themselves out of the negative cycle? How do we break the chain and get the positive vibes flowing?

The best way I have found is by dance.

Yeap, that's right. Dance.

I'm not saying you have to be great at it AT ALL. Believe me, I am not a dancer that would dare show off my skills in the light outside my own house. However, I love music. Mainly 90's hip hop, but hey we all have our preferences right.

I have noticed that listening to music itself can completely change my day. I can cry to music, scream out my frustrations, and just simply sing along. That can help change the mindset alone. If you add dance to it though, it is pure magic!


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Who here has seen Grey's Anatomy? You know were Meredith always wants to dance out her problems when she is upset? I used to laugh at the idea back when I first watched the show, long before I stumbled upon mindset changes and what have you. The truth is. It is so absolutely correct. It may look silly, you may feel silly but after you've gave it all you've got- you will feel better.

It may start with tears and screams, but by the time you're done all the pent up emotion that you have been repressing will have had an escape! Dancing helps get you up and moving, the blood circulating and the vibes climbing. Sitting still for to long isn't good for you and dancing is a great way to break out of that mindset.

Have you ever tried dancing to make yourself feel better? How do you change your mindset?











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Self Care is Not Selfish

August 23, 2018



I recently watched a video of someone declaring that self care and self love was a reason to be selfish. The feelings that washed over me while watching it was absolutely awful. SELF CARE IS NOT SELFISH.

Now, are there some people who probably use it to be selfish, sure... but there are also people who use the Bible for their own gains, and people who use charities in terrible ways too. You will always have that.

You can not take care of others, if your personal needs are not met. Believe me, I know. I've tried. I am a mom. My children, husband, and close family always get put before me in my "taken care of" line in my mind. That means I will go months on end at times, without taking a single break for myself. I will bend over backwards to be at appointments, making sure they are happy, and doing everything they need before I even consider doing something for myself. And do you know what happens when I do this. I GET BURNT OUT.

That's right, I'm not wonderwoman. I will find myself in a fit of anxiety that oils, medication, food nothing can fix. I will find myself losing sleep to help do what needs to be done for others. I find myself getting irritated at the kids for no real reason. I become hateful and the person that I don't like to be.

All because I didn't take time for myself.

I have found that when I do take care of myself, maybe 10-15 minutes of a facial mask, getting my nails done, or simply going to the gym I feel my cup back up and I am ready to help fill others.

You MUST take care of yourself before you can take care of others. Even on planes when they go over the safety precautions, you put your mask on before helping others.So you must take care of yourself if you plan to help others.

This may mean bi-weekly trips alone to get a massage, facial, the gym. It may also be just a quick 30 minute trip alone to your coffee shop of choice and drinking a beverage doing nothing. Whatever it is that makes you feel more you, is what you need to be doing.

Don't let anyone try to tell you that you are being selfish because you asked for a few moments alone. As a mom, I know people who have felt bad for asking for help or asking for a break. You can't do that. You want to be the best mom you can be, then take care of yourself.

You do what you need to do to be a better human.
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Un-apologetically Living Your Best Life

July 26, 2018





Sometimes you are more than some can stand.
Sometimes you are intimidating.
Sometimes you outgrow people.

Any of these sound familiar to you?

Has anyone ever said anything like this to you? If they haven't, don't worry they will. It is hard to take in at first but then you realize that it's not really you that is the problem.

When you start listening to your inner you, chasing the north star and living your best life, the people around you are going to change. Some will grow with you, but some won't.

It's okay to morn these losses, because frankly if you didn't go through them; you wouldn't be who you are today. Every. Single. Thing. is a lesson. It is either a lesson to make you stronger, smarter, wiser. Whatever the reason, it has made you into the person you are.

The good news about this.... if you don't like who you are currently, than you have full power to change it. You can. You just have to commit to the idea. You have to tighten the shoe laces and work past the hard stuff, because believe me there is always hard stuff.

And along the road you are going to hurt people's feelings. You aren't going to be able to make everyone happy. AND THAT IS OKAY! Believe me, I am such a huge people pleaser. I don't like to rock the boat and I really dislike letting people down. But the truth of the story is, you can never please everyone. If you constantly try, you will ignore yourself and thus continue to be unhappy with the life you are living.

You can't do that. You have to live YOUR life. And you have to live it un-apologetically. I'm not saying go out and try to do harm, but I am saying to live your best life without feeling like you have to apologize for it. Not all of your friends will grow with you, and in fact you may even have family members that don't understand. It's not their path, it is not their decision. It is yours.

Do you have a dream of something that you think other's will laugh at you about? Who cares, go on anyway. In your journey to be you, you will find your tribe. You will find your people. You will find those who support you.

We are in such a huge advantage for that because of the internet. You can pretty much go online and type anything in the search bar and connect with other people who think the way you do. You can make connections via social media. You can be you!

Do what you feel needs to be done. Take the chance. Go live your best life.

On your journey to finding yourself have you found that some of your friends didn't support you and eventually went on their own way?












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Finding Your Inner Strength

February 22, 2018



Photo by Ester Marie Doysabas on Unsplash
Life can suck.

There I said it. I mean it can SUCK. But it’s not about what happens in life that defines us but how we react to it.  Positivity mindset can sound silly when you are facing problems of your own. I know that, and I would be lying through my teeth if I said I never had those days where I want to throw myself on the floor and have a temper tantrum.
Positive thinking isn’t always just being happy go lucky. It’s more than that. It is having the strength to stand up, dust yourself off and get back on the same horse that just threw you down.  
In my weight loss journey, I haven’t been perfect. I have had days (like this past weekend when I scarfed down an entire cheese nacho by myself) that I wasn’t perfect. But positive thinking is what helped me get through. It was waking up the next day and deciding that I wasn’t going to let one “oops” define the rest of this journey. I wasn’t about to throw in the towel and be done.
That’s the way we must look at life. We can’t just let our fleeting moment of negative thoughts get us down. You must overcome them, and you can.
I’ve said it once, and I will say it again. Having a gratitude journal is something that is so helpful during these times. One it makes you write about what you are thankful for, despite your bad attitude. But it can also be a reminder as you read back through it on what you truly have.  
Sometimes strength isn’t always heavy lifting or picking up a car with your bare hands. Strength can be inner strength too. The strength to carry on. To ignore those who doubt us and to continue the path that we know is right for us. Notice I said for us. Just because it is right for you, doesn’t mean it is someone else’s cup of tea.  Strength is literally just deciding, ya I ate chocolate cake today but tomorrow I will be better!

How are you in finding that inner strength? Do you think it could do some work? Do you have a gratitude journal? I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!

A Look Into My Weekly Meal Plan

February 18, 2018




At the request of some I decided to start sharing my meal plans.  I want to start by saying that I am not a know all keto person. I am figuring it all out as I go along too. I am a mother and a wife, my family is not following my way of eating so most of my meals are just finding low carb options for food my picky people will eat.

I follow an 18:6 Intermittent Fasting routine as well. So what does this mean? It means I do not eat for 18 hours of the day. Usually means I am skipping breakfast. If this does resonate with you than do what you feel is correct. However, this means that I won't be sharing any fun breakfast recipes haha. I usually have coffee.

For lunches almost every week I purchase: pork skins, pepperonis, variety of cheese, broccoli, cauliflower,tuna and deli meat. I don't plan my lunches but I usually make pepperoni chips or meat and cheese roll ups.

This week however I am making stuffed jalapenos and some deviled eggs to throw in the mix for lunches.

For dinner we are having the following:


  • Bacon & Cheese Hamburgers: For myself I won't have a bun. I just toss my hamburger on a plate, add my cheese and bacon *warm it up, because everything is better if cheese is melted* then add pickles, mayo, avocado and mustard. Instead of fries I am going to fry (in coconut oil, because vegetable oil is a no no) radishes.  Super yummy and delish!
  • Breakfast for Supper: Nothing like a super yummy omelette. I will usually use bacon and pepperonis(or sausage)  with cheese add avocado and sour cream and love how yummy it is.
  • "Shake n Bake" chicken with veggies. Now before you panic, it is not real shake and bake. I coat the chicken in ground up pork skins instead of the actual shake and bake carby stuff! Coat it and throw it in the oven. Super quick. Super simple.
  • Taco Night! Now, I have several variations for taco night (one includes homemade taco cheese shells) but this week I am going to take my taco meat and stuff it into a bell pepper. Add cheese and bake! This will be the first time I am making it, so be sure to watch my instagram feed so you can see how I feel about it.
  • Salad! I love salad nights because it is literally just whatever left over meat we've had! Some of us may have a taco salad, I usually prefer a nice cob salad!
  • Friday night is eat out night. I love to eat out. This week I can tell I am already craving Popeye's Blackened Chicken Tenders! They are all the flavor of Popeyes with out all the guilty carbs. 
I hope hearing some of these ideas can help you find a way to still prepare supper but also be able to easily make substitutions for you to continue on your journey of healthy eating! Do you have some favorite low carb options? I would love to hear them below!! 













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Weight Loss Journey & Life Update

February 16, 2018

Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash

Where have I been?
What have I been doing?
Let me tell you all about it.....

I guess you could tell I took a bit of a break from here for much longer than even I expected. I needed to focus on myself (refer to here to learn more about taking time for yourself).

So let me get right down to it.

In August of 2017 my husband and I went on a glorious trip to New Orleans. I loved every moment of it. However, when I got home I realized that I did love the photos that had been taken of me. I wondered when I had gained so much weight without realizing it. I had ignored the signs and continued on as I had for years. I was without energy and honestly, I just wasn't healthy. My weight at the doctor's office that next October was 221. I knew I had been around the 200 mark but I never thought I had reached to over 220. But I had. I knew something had to change.

A friend of mine,Keto_Chola, started on a Keto Journey and I monitored her progress. I loved what she was doing. She was such an inspiration and I started taking note of what I ate. Which was a huge amount of carbs. I thought this is the diet I need to try. I became friends with someone else who had been on the diet and thankfully to V she said she would be my accountability partner.

So without telling anyone (except V) I started it. Every day, every meal I would check in with V and make sure it was keto appropriate and input it into my Carb Manager app.



The first week, I lost a total of 5 pounds and could see the difference. So I decided to keep going.  Little by little I got the hang of it.

I decided to keep going.

I have now been on Keto (with a few cheat days I'll be honest) for a little over two months. I have lost 38 lbs and a whole lot of inches. I  finally have the courage to go to the gym, even though I know I look lost I'm trying. I have enough energy to play with my children (one who is currently sitting on my lap as I type this). I am finding clothes fun again.
Trying on a pair of pants that fit the beginning of December 2017. 

So I write this to say I will start writing more on my weight loss journey but this isn't the end of my good news.


I am also going through training to be a Certified Life Coach. I currently am certified as a Life Purpose Coach through Transformation Academy. I absolutely love that I have accomplished this for myself. I am working on a program now to help everyone live a more positive and purpose filled life. I can't wait for you to join me on this journey and I can't wait to help you start yours!














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Take The Time

January 29, 2018


Happy New Year Beautiful!


You’ve probably noticed I haven’t updated in a while. This originally began as an apology letter of sorts. I wanted to apologize for my lack of being around, at the same time I am not sorry for it.


As humans and especially as women we feel the need to completely tell someone why we were absent, we feel the unnecessary need to apologize for everything. I am urging you now to stop that.


Stop apologizing to everyone for everything.


I will be say that my absence was a big part of me figuring out who I am. Starting a blog at 23-24 and having it at 27 means that I have went through a lot of soul searching and changes. I am not the same person I was a few years ago, honestly, I am not even the same person I was three months ago. I had to get to the point of where I began to knew myself once again, before I could bring any quality content back to you. 

As we age, we seem to get to the point where other’s opinions of us don’t matter as much. We begin to find out who our true friends were and find new friends we never thought we would have. So much goes on in our lives that sometimes we must stop.

That’s what I was doing. I was stopping. I was finding out more about myself. I was spending more time with my family, my husband and my children. I was spending time reading books and mastering new things. I was trying to find myself. I have started eating healthier, I have lost 31 pounds. These are things I needed to do. I needed to take the time. 

And you know what? If you feel the need it is perfectly okay to do the same! Take that vacation and run off somewhere nice with your cell phone off. Turn down weekend plans and find yourself cuddled up with a book and big blanket. Let go of the hurt others have given you.  Find yourself.

In order to love those around us, we have to be in love with ourselves. I know that is cheesy, and has been said a bazillion times but it is also true.

It is 2018 ladies, and it is time to take control.

Take control of your lives. Your emotions. You.

Stop apologizing for needing to get away or anything else.

Have you had any time recently to get away? How have you worked on trying to find yourself?


Are you ready for a brand new 2018 with me? Because I am back and better than ever!



Are you listening?









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