Finding Fifteen

November 25, 2015

Who am I? What do I like to do in my free time? Have I somehow lost myself?

I think a lot of mother's start having these same questions, especially as the kids needs becoming more demanding. As a women, we begin worry about our husbands needs, our children's needs, the housework that needs done, or the groceries that need to be bought.

We worry about so much during the day and night, that we honestly forget to take time for ourselves. Taking care of ourselves should be top priority, if we don't how will we take care of everything else. I don't just mean physically either, but mentally and emotionally as well.

Our lives are full of "need to do this", "need to do that". So my question is Who are you? A long time ago I could have wrote four pages of things that I enjoyed. And when someone gave me a little Christmas money to "buy yourself something that you want." Automatically I come up with lots of options: I can buy the boy's christmas presents, I could buy Buggy's birthday present, pay a water bill, or buy groceries. Given those are all wonderful, and needed, things. But are any of those truthfully "just mine".  Not really.

If I was to come up with the answer to Who Am I? I would write this. (Fyi, it will pretty much be what you read on any of my accounts "about me".) I am a mother, wife, and daughter. I am a granddaughter, an aunt, and a sister. I am a daughter of Jesus.  While all of those are certainly true, that doesn't explain "Who" I am. It is "what" I am. It doesn't explain what I like to do. Or want to do.

This came to my attention that I didn't know this answer when I asked my handsome hubby if he wanted to go grocery shopping with me. The conversation at that time went like this:

He said: "No, he doesn't like shopping."
I replied, "Well, I don't either but I have to do it."
He honestly looked at me and said, "I thought you liked to go shopping."
I replied: "Nope. Not at all, why would you think that?"
Him: "I'm not sure, I just thought you did. What do you like to do for you?"
My response: .... silence...  "I like to craft, and do devotionals when I can. I like to journal in my Bible."
Him: "Then why don't you do them?"
Me: "I don't have time."

Honestly, if it wasn't for the First5 app, which is amazing and you need to check it out, I would barely get anytime in for a quick devotional. Well that is changing, thankfully. My husband is making sure I get at least 15 minutes of "Me time". Where I can crochet, journal, or do my daily devotional. I believe all people need this alone time. We need to define who we are, what we like, and how to have our time.  Since making sure to get my fifteen minutes in, I am so much happier. I am able to have more patience with the boys and I feel closer to God. It's honestly making a great impact on my life.

So I challenge you, make time. Learn who you are. Not "What" you are. Find some alone time this week. Don't do the dishes for one night, or ignore that last load of laundry. It can wait. After the kids are in bed, find that time! Let me know how it goes!!
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  1. Great post. I feel this way too. I find I need that quiet "me" time or I am just not up to par. I am using it right now actually. Love the look of your blog btw. Very pretty. Love the owls.

  2. Thank you so much!! "Me time" is so important!! And the blog has been a work in progress, and I'm still working on it! I love owls (I'm slightly obsessed 😊)

  3. I just started mine this month. I am working on a redesign. I'm really enjoying it so far. I feel like I'm doing something constructive. Lol.


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