I Want Them To Have More.

August 10, 2016

As a mother I am always in a state of worry for some reason or another. A lot of times, as usual, I worry about their futures. I hope that I am not damaging them in some way, I hope that I am giving them the tools they need, and I hope that I am encouraging them enough.

Growing up my family had one goal: college. I don’t blame my parent’s for wanting that for me, but it wasn’t what I wanted. After many years of being miserable on a scholarship at a University I withdrew. I have never looked back, and that’s okay. Yes, education is important, I want my boys growing up knowing that college will be there.  I want them to know that money doesn't equal happiness and that you can't take it with you when you die. I don't want them to chase money,  I want them to have more.

I want them to have a strong relationship with God: Most importantly, I want them to know their savior. I want them to know that he has their back as long as they have their faith in him! I want every decision they make be lead by him and I want their life’s be a testimony of his love!

I want them to have life experiences: This is something that I have missed out on compared to many my age. I was always very reserved, very worried, and frankly just straight scared to do anything new. I didn’t want to travel, or go out on a whim. I liked plans, I liked the comfort of my small town and I liked knowing that I was safe. I don’t want that for them. I want them to travel and see how other people live. If this means waiting a year or so on college so they can travel, that is okay! I will be okay with that. College isn’t for everyone, and it wasn’t for me. I want them to understand there is more out there than just books and test.  I want them to experience the world.

I want them to have self-esteem: I’ve written several times that my biggest downfall is easily my lack of self-esteem.  My biggest fear is that this nasty little trait will follow on to my children, and I work very hard at building them up every chance I get. This doesn’t mean they always win; this means that they understand that failure is apart of life. Sometimes, things don’t work out and THAT IS OKAY! I want them to know that it is fine to dust yourself off and try again. I want them to know that I am in their corner, and that I will help them to the best of my abilities achieve anything that they want to do.

I want them to have passion at work: I really don’t want either of them to choose a job because of the pay.  I mean pay is great, but if you hate your job then it isn’t even worth it. I want them to have a career that they love. Monkey man is always saying that he wants to do this or do that when he gets older….  And my response every time is “Why?” and he’ll say “Because I think I would love it.” Then the next sentence is always, “Well that’s a great first step! If that’s what you want to do, then we’ll find a way for you to do it.”  This has been the same conversation we have had for being a trash worker, construction worker, doctor and even a dinosaur hunter. And I stand behind that. I want him to love his work. My dad for example is a diesel mechanic. Is that a glorious job? Probably not to most. He works with his hands, which stay mostly stained, and I’ve known the smell of grease my whole life- but when you ask him why he does it, it is because he loves it. He loves that smell, the working with his hands, and taking things apart so that they can be put back together. That is all I want for my boys.

I want them to know that if they choose to go to a college and become a super awesome PHD holder that is great .If one chooses to travel around Europe and comes home and decides to be a construction worker because he just loves creating things- that is great too! I want them to do what makes them happy, and more importantly I want them to have all this life has to offer them.  I want them to understand that life is short, and every day is nothing short of a blessing from God. If they can understand that, then I think they will be okay!

What are your hopes for your children? Do you have anything you would add to this list? Let me know in the comments. 


  1. Amen! My children do. But having had money and having had no money, all things being equal, having money is easier. My dh hasn't had a perm job in 18 months.

  2. My hopes are similar to yours. I want my boys to grow in a relationship with God more than anything. If they do that, he will guide them to be who he called them to be.

  3. What a refreshing read especially for a fairly new mom. Thank for sharing honestly from your heart!

  4. Such a lovely post. I was speaking to someone today who said they had brought up their children in the opposite way they had been brought up. They want the best for their children and I think when I have my own I'll feel exactly the same.

  5. I agree with you completely! I want my kids to love Jesus and be happy with whatever God gives them to do :) great post!


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