To The Late-Talker's Momma

September 6, 2018

Hey girl!

I see you.

I see you scrolling through Facebook and slowly crying every time one of your friends uploads a video of their child, the same age as yours by the way, singing their favorite song. I see you tear up when the child runs to their mother telling them they love them.

I see you up late at worrying if you could be doing something more, something better, something that would just make them talk.

I see you when a stranger comes up in the grocery store and tries to speak to your child. Quickly you blurt out "oh, he's just a late talker. He's not trying to be rude."

I see you when you take so much time out of your day, repeating the same words over and over. I see you putting pressure on yourself because you think you did something wrong. Did I talk to them enough? Do I need to tell them more? Should I press him more?

I see you as you spend so much time with one child that you start to feel bad for not paying so much attention to the others.

I see you worrying about when they start school. Will they talk by then? What will happen if they still haven't got it?

I see you tell everyone every time your child does finally say a word-any word. I see the excitement swell in your eyes.

I see you start to feel bad for telling everyone, every little word because you feel like a bother.

I see you, because I am you. You are not a lone. I've had two children. Both have been late talkers. My monkey who is 7 now is still in speech therapy. He didn't talk till he was a little over three. Not a word. Now, he's never ever quiet.

My buggy, 3, still doesn't say much and when he does- it's usually hard to understand. He's getting better though, every week.  When at the beginning of the year he barely had 5 words...we now have over 50. But it's hard. It's tough. It's slow going.

I am you.

I am that mother that cries at videos of other's people's children. I am that mother who wonder's why? Did I do something wrong? Is it me? Twice. I've been through this twice. It's exhausting. I know the looks you get in stores when the child(especially if they are tall like mine are) won't speak to a stranger.

With my first I worried. While I was pregnant, I prayed literally every night that Buggy would not have the same problem as his brother-and so many other's in my family. I didn't want that. I wanted the cute videos of them talking. I wanted to hear him say "Your pretty mom" just because. I wanted so much for him to talk.... and then he didn't. Believe me when I tell you, I KNOW your heartbreak. When he's developmentally fine on everything-except his speech. When his speech teacher tells you he will get it, but it just takes time. It doesn't matter, you want change over night. You don't want everyone to treat him different because he doesn't talk in a language they understand. I know you understand him, momma. You understand every sound, grunt, hum that comes from him.  I know the pain that comes from having late talkers.

Don't for one second ever think that you are alone in this! Because you aren't. Give yourself grace. Do what you can, and just know that you are not alone. Knowing that can change everything. Keep going on Momma, it'll all be okay.

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